We all have a sense of what we aspire to achieve in our careers, but getting there is often far from easy. As we move up the career ladder, we will face obstacles that will test not only the strengths and weaknesses of the company, but also our own personal limits.
In recent times we have become more aware of impostor syndrome and how business people feel they are not worthy of the success they have achieved. This, in turn, has an impact on their ability to reach their full potential and career goals. Here we talk to 20 successful women who reveal how they overcame impostor syndrome.
1. Choose to ignore negative thoughts
“Life is like a coin – you have both your head and your tail (blessings and sorrows or positive and negative) – you can choose one side to focus on and live the rest of your life with whatever. this side of the coin delivers, ”says Anita Lawrence, speaker, trainer and certified coach with the John Maxwell team.
2. Become a role model
Emily Nuttall, motivational disability and mental health activist and author of, It’s good not to be well, says, “Being a role model is a great way to fight impostor syndrome – whether we are a charity worker, loved one, coach or professional – to offer guidance, strength and support, so we can inspire and grow helping others and ourselves to be the best we can be ”.
3. Find your headlights
“Seek out those people who care and care about you, and metaphorically, use their shining lights to guide, direct, and support you. These “beacons” will help you navigate your own personal and educational journey, ”explains Emma Chivers, consultant and researcher specializing in youth and community work.
4. Learn to love yourself
“Self talk – this is a great way to change your habits – constantly talk to each other about the new you and love yourself. There is no ego here, just the pure, virgin love we were born with, ”advises Jan Mayfield, inspirational speaker and author of Zoetic Soul: Concerning Life.
5. Retrain your brain
Jenni Dunman, award-winning entrepreneur, ethical investor and coach in transforming global mindsets, says: “We were born without anxiety, without insecurity, without fear, without phobia. We have a beautiful young and clear mind, ready to be educated. From the moment we are born, we are influenced by family, friends, school, opinions, beliefs, circumstances and events of others. These things can shape the rest of our life and can help determine whether we are successful or failing in life. However, we don’t have to accept that this is exactly what we are; if your opinion of yourself is negative or if you are unhappy, you can retrain your brain ”.
6. Find your goal
Joy Whitlock, trainer and international presenter, says, “The most profound thing you can do is identify your purpose in life. It can change over time and it is ok. Once you have a goal, everything else falls into place. Your identity, beliefs and values will align with your purpose. Understand them and write them down. Review them regularly and modify them as you see fit ”.
7. Listen to your inner self
Listening is essential, according to Karen Ramsay-Smith, an advanced professional transformational coach. “We all have our own personal coach within us – it’s a natural birth state, which we can freely access at any time. Nature is one of the best ways to meet this inner master. When we speak and always do, we never listen. We have to learn to listen and to let go if we are to create more of what we really want, to learn to observe our fearful selves, to control our flow of thoughts and emotions ”.
8. Change your money mindset
“Having your financial affairs ** together is more important than ever,” notes Vix Munro, entrepreneur, author, money enthusiast and eternal optimist.
“It’s about financial empowerment – taking control of your money rather than controlling yourself. Understanding how to manage your money is a key part of this, but it’s only part of the picture. Your financial reality is also a reflection of your money mindset – the set of core beliefs that we subconsciously develop about money. Most people’s attitude towards money is shaped by their family background and education. I believe we all have the ability to transform our mindset about money, rewrite our money story, become financially self-sufficient and live our best lives ”.
9. Recognize the doubt and do it anyway
Lynsey Anne Toft, Entrepreneur, Real Estate Investor, Coach and Mentor, said, “You can let your doubt get the better of you and keep you from moving forward in life, or you can go on regardless and break it. Personal development and filling your mind with things that help you grow is essential. “One of my favorite quotes is from Henry Ford, who said ‘whether you think you can or not you are right’ – he makes a good point; It’s up to you.
10. Don’t be afraid to make a fresh start
LaChelle Adkins, lifestyle designer, transformation coach and creator of # smile4wellnessmovement believes in the power of renewal. “My own journey has helped me expose my fears and sadness with transparency, which has led me to create my own philosophy of fresh start.”
11. You are not superhuman, so stop trying to be
Leanne Eustace, Accounting and Sales Expert, explains: “Running a business can often be difficult, frustrating, lonely and tiring. It’s not for everyone and it can bring an incredible level of stress and responsibility. It took me a long time to realize that you can’t do everything yourself. Entrepreneurs are familiar with phrases such as “knowledge is power”, “money is king” and “turnover is vanity; profit is the reason ”. I believe, however, that time is the most important thing – you can never get it back ”.
12. Stop procrastinating
Sandra Blake, real estate agent and co-owner of an award-winning real estate and rental agency, believes in seizing the moment. “Time waits for no one and before you know it another year has passed, and you are wondering, ‘What if…?’ Think of it like this: Are your biggest regrets for the things you did, or the things you didn’t? “
13. Valuing human connection
Kerry Martin, an experienced personal development, leadership and mindfulness coach, believes that “the art of connection is lost in the ever-changing world of technology. If there is one message I could pass on to everyone on this planet, it would be to keep the art of human connection alive, to show up, to be present, and to make sure that everyone you meet feel valued. Hold someone’s hand and help them in life, and don’t forget to smile ”.
14. Find your tribe
Claire Rees has a background in health, fitness and project management and says, “I have learned that networking, investing in yourself and finding your supportive tribe are just as important in your life and your business as marketing ”.
15. Leading with passion
Melissa Curran, Founder of ModernMind Group, says: “I think many leaders still have a long way to go when it comes to human leadership. The truth is that there are a lot of people in organizations who lose the love for what they do because of the environment that a leader creates. The leader can make it the best place to go to work or one of the worst ”.
16. Understand the power of your subconscious
Sheena Ytil works in the tourism industry and is a speaker and mentor for young girls, boys and women who have gone through challenges. She says, “I have come to understand better how powerful the subconscious is and how it frames the way we live, even when our conscious being is striving to make changes. I started to perceive things differently and to put them into practice by creating habits to refurbish my memory chip ”.
17. Create the right environment
Suzanne Burnall-Watts, an expert in the field of clinical hypnotherapy, believes that creating the right environment is the key to overcoming impostor syndrome. “My unique approach, intuitive thinking and ability to tap into my box of skills play an important role in helping me create a safe working environment for myself and my clients. “
18. Adopt a growth mindset
Toni Clarkstone, author, speaker and trainer who writes and lectures on relationship selling, customer retention and personal development, advises, “The first step is to take stock of the situation and everything you’ve been through. with a clear mind. Reflection is a great way to build confidence and strength because you are showing yourself that you have the ability to handle whatever is thrown at you. The next step is to let go of what you can’t control; a good salesperson knows how to accept the loss and focus on the next win. The key is to adopt a growth mindset, which means you have to believe that you can develop and improve yourself. Without it, you will continue to live in fear of the next challenge life throws at you. Once you take stock, reflect and let go of what you cannot control with a growth mindset, you can begin to act ”.
19. Remember that success is subjective
Tracy Hill, cafe owner and founder of the Cats PajamasKindness Project, says, “Being positive isn’t always easy. If I could give others one piece of advice it would be – yes, bad things happen and we can’t always change those things. What my own life has shown me is that good things happen too. Learn from your mistakes, gain strength in adversity, and don’t waste a second. Believe in your abilities and remember that success is subjective ”.
20. Realize your worth
Rachel Brydon, Founder of Calm in the Chaos Training, Consultancy and Community Services believes it is essential to recognize your worth, even if you find it difficult to accept it. She says, “I know that by promoting emotional coaching at home and interactions with children, I have a direct and positive effect on the lives of thousands of children. By providing well-being training to professionals, I have an impact not only on their professional life, but also on their family life ”.
You will find more tips and advice in IWOW: Inspiring Women of the World (£ 12.99, Panoma Press) by Dawn Evans and Tracey Smolinski.
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